Reflecting a little…
Mostly I was just thinking about how I think it is actually important to relate to people who are just starting out this life, and those who are looking for answers that — there is no “Happily Ever After” in this lifetime. I’m not meaning this as being negative sounding post, as it isn’t really.
The problem is that in instilling this idea that things have a real possibility to turn out “Happily Ever After” implies that perfection is ever within reach. That a time when everything will just go your way always for the remainder of your life can happen, and that is plainly false. That to be successful you would have to reach that time.
Then because its something that people are always reaching for even unintentionally, they become unhappy because they aren’t there yet.
Life is about how you deal with the troubles thrown at you, not about how you avoid dealing with them. We have this tendency to allow ourselves to give up too quickly. To maybe feel overwelmed by things that if we just stepped to the right or the left….. just changed our direction a little, we could get around or over those things quicker.
I feel like in my life I’ve come to terms with where I am. I’m not saying I won’t continue to work to change it, but I am saying that there are things in this life that aren’t logical or worthwhile to waste my time trying to pursue.
Perfection is one of those that has to be given up. I’m still living in a world with 7+ Billion people just as flawed as I am, having everyone behave how I believe they should is just not going to happen. Choosing to be upset because that happens is a choice we make to rob ourselves of our own well-being.
Somethings are just not meant for us, no matter how seemingly wonderful they seem they’d be. They are not worth trading everything you have found success in for. Wrong places, wrong timing, wrong situations, wrong attitudes all play into if something is a possibility or not. Sometimes it is those things plain prevent us from living out a certain scenario. Its important to not latch onto ideas that cannot become a positive change in our lives. There are many sides to consider, and if you aren’t considering them, you are doing it wrong.
In my life, I probably will never be without MS. I may not always rebound the way I have been extremely lucky enough to in the past. This is a tough pill to swallow sometimes, but its one I’m going to have to in order to get to the place where it is not a looming shadow over everything else in my life. The more I dwell, the harder it gets. That said you can’t totally ignore it either, which if I’m honest is my preferred attitude to take. I would rather not give it merit. Not allow it to impact my thoughts and feelings… my level of sanity. However, you can’t run forever, and sometimes its a matter of finding the next level of positive actions… and sometimes that requires us to find that next level of “acceptance vs responsible actions” balance.
The ability to find the “serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.”