Speak with positive intention… not for mere attention.

Try to be reasonably aware of the origin of your “opinions” and work to stay out of the spotlight unless you actually mean to make a positive difference in the world. In truth its not always necessary to have an opinion on subjects not concerning you. Nor is it really expected on subjects you’ve not done any more than a google search or two on.  It really doesn’t somehow make you important or impressive just because you have crafted one. Infact… it makes you rather average.

It takes character to be someone who listens first and speaks up only when its necessary. Someone who researches first, weighs multiple differing points of view before ever being willing to make any statement.

Cheat Sheet:  How to know the difference between when you should voice your point of view… and when you should not.

Ask yourself these simple questions ~

#1 Is the behavior fatal? Does it cause physical or mental or emotional suffering to the individuals immediately participating in the behavior?

If Yes Then yes of course speak up! Let others know you care about their suffering and work to help alleviate the hurt in this world by doing something about it. Work with others to inspire positive change, and encourage cooperation across the board to make a lasting difference. Strive to make this world a healthier, more positive place that benefits all those currently living in it, as well as those that will come along in the future. Think long-term. Encourage and Inspire overall peace. Work towards a greater good.

If No – If the people actually involved are happy or content with their decisions, and it doesn’t immediately concern your everyday life, then stay out of it. Being overly opinionated about decisions other people choose to live out is just being a nosy gossip. Just move on.. there’s nothing to see here. Your opinion on the matter isn’t needed until its specifically asked for.

#2 Is your opinion based on your religion?

If Yes – then understand that religion/spirituality is a personal choice and should be understood as such. Religion/Spirituality is only meaningful if its personal. Religion/Spirituality is completely worthless if you just “believe” because its taken on because its what others around you expect. Don’t attempt to herd people into blindly believing. Know that the rules you’ve agreed to live by, are rules that are expected of you and you alone. Don’t expect everyone around you to abide by your beliefs just because you do.  Ask yourself question #1 once more and use that to determine if you should speak up before you do.

If No – then still understand that if the people actually involved are happy or content with their decisions, and it doesn’t immediately concern your everyday life, then stay out of it.

#3 Did anyone ask you?

If Yes – Then give some consideration to your answer.
If the subject isn’t “about you” or actually causing physical/mental/emotionally hurtful to those involved.
Strive to correctly represent how much time you’ve actually put into coming up with that opinion. Realize your own motives behind anything you are wanting to say. If you know your opinion is based more out of personal interest rather than a greater good.. you should likely abstain and not comment.
If the subject is “about you” and/or IS actually causing physical/mental/emotionally hurtful to those involved.
SPEAK UP and do something to help encourage change for the better!

If No – then unless it affects your life directly, or is causing physical/mental/emotional suffering to others, then its likely unneeded and you should not worry about being vocal.  
IF HOWEVER – it is causing  physical/mental/emotional suffering to yourself or others immediately involved or participating then SPEAK UP and do something to help encourage change for the better!

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